My Floral Design - Is it me or should parents support in whatever the child decides to do with their skin?

Is it me or should parents support in whatever the child decides to do with their skin?

I am 18 female who doesn't lie to my mother, never disrespects her. We have a brilliant relationship, we're more like sisters than mother - daughter. Now this is not a phase for me but for the past year i've become heavily interested in Body modification, i have several tattoos in coverable places that have significant meaning to me. Now i love the adrenaline rush that you get from a tattoo and i am in desperate need to get some new ink before i go on holiday in june. I am looking for a rib piece, mainly floral with a touch of new skool. Me and my mother have had several discussions, well arguments and everytime she comes out with 'if we were meant to have tattoos, we'd of been born with them'. I'd be a tattooist if it paid well, and i know that being an accounts assistant it's not really looked good upon if you're a piece of art. It's got to the point now where i dont want to disrespect her but it's for me not for her. what should i do?

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I personally think tatoos are gross but I think that if your 18 your parents can't say no but they also don't have to support you.
no, i don't know where everyone started thinking that parents are supposed to support everythign you do because they are your parents. They have their own desires, opinions, morals, etc. They should not have to bend to support yours. That being said, I am not saying your mother is right, or you are, just that she shouldn't have to support you, nor you her if she was doing something crazy in your eyes. You will both either get over it or not, but either of you going into this thinking one HAS to act or defer to the other will not win anything.
You have to think about is it worth it to you to possibly harm the bond you have now with your mom just for another piece of art. Maybe she will just be angry just like she has your others. It turns more into how much is having that tattoo making you willing to risk? Yes the art is for you and you have to look at it both ways, I see your mom really just trying to protect you. Tattoos are not for everyone and people that do not like them will never understand the meanings behind why we badge ourselves. It's a tough call and you are the only one that can make it. I'm sure your mom will always love you. I don't know where you got the idea that tattoo artist don't make money. If you are good, work for a good shop and know what you are doing you make really good money. :)
and if god had wanted us to wear clothes Armani would be cheaper this argument doesnt stack up, EVER you are right, its your decision, and whilst you may not want to upset your mother, you are of the age of consent she should be proud you have grown to be the considerate daughter you have, BUT she should also repect your decisions in life, they wont always be right but they are your decisions, mistakes and triumphs to make tell her you appreciate and welcome her advice but you have decided after consideration to go ahead and follow through with your plans Good luck
My parents would be highly opposed to me getting any ink done, mostly on the basis that many employers have anti-tattoo dress codes. If you've got them in obvious places, you've often cut down significantly on the places you can work. Either that or you'll have to find some way to cover them. I'm glad they were tough on me or I'd probably have some stupid tattoo right somewhere obvious. Tattoos do seem to be getting a bit more acceptable, but, they certainly aren't yet viewed in a positive light by most of the business world. You can't even work at Walmart with a tattoo showing. If you have one on your lower arm, you have to wear long sleeves. If you live at home, then to some extent you have to follow the rules. That's the price you pay to live at home, you have to make some effort to keep the peace. At the same time though, I understand the need to be true to yourself. Maybe make some kind of compromise. I don't see why she'd care if it's someplace hidden where you're getting it done. She's probably mostly concerned that a lot of tattoos may hamper your career later. She's probably afraid you'll just come home one day with a whole arm sleeve done. If it was me, I would just get it done and not mention it unless she asked. My mom and I have a pretty honest relationship too, but, there are things she'd probably prefer not to know. If she asked me point blank, I'd tell her. Otherwise though, if no one sees it, that's my business and no one else's. Everyone has a right to their opinion and I can understand why a parent wouldn't support their children getting tattoed.
Well she is just trying to protect you, but her excuse is wrong, if we were ment to have hair cuts, wed be born with general hair. if we were ment to have clothes, wed have been born clothed, Everything we do is man made ! Just explain to her whats the difference in you having a new tattoo youve already got some!
my first thought was: If we were ment to be ignorant, we'd be born ignorant. It's as you say, it's your body....and it sounds like it's something she'd get over since you two are so close. Don't think of it as a respect issue. Or if you do, why isn't it disrespectful on her part to think her 18 year old child isn't mature/responsible enough to make her own decisions? good luck
Is your mother disrespectful about your decision? If she doesn't like it, expresses that, but ultimately accepts you for who you are and loves you regardless......I don't really see a problem. She may never like your mods, and if you two are tight like you say, you should be okay with her expressing her dislike. Unless she is constantly harping on you I'd probably just agree to disagree. If she is constant and won't lay off, then maybe you should sit her down and lay it all down. Letting her know that while you respect and value her opinion, ultimately you are an adult, and your own person. That she needs to accept that you are old enough to make your own decisions....mistakes and all.
I am in the predicament with my mother. I am 23, but she still thinks that i am going through a 'wild phase'. I try and tell her that I am making conscious decisions, but she doesn't seem to thin that I am making smart choices. I think the best thing would be to let her have her opinions and you can have yours.
Now a days, a lot of older people are regretting the tattoo's they got back when they were teens. A lot of people are getting real stupid tattoos without meaning! if its a significant meaning to you than go for it. But remember that you will have it for the rest of your life. choose wisely!
As long as you're 18, I think your parents should support you. I have the same problem with my dad. I'm 22 and he says the same thing all the time. He may not support me, but he knows he can't stop me as long as I don't live under his roof :-)
by law you are not considered a child. i was 38 when i got my first tat and hid it from my mother for two years and it was quite by accident that she saw it. now i have three altogether. my oldest has four and my youngest has one. if you are not a child you have the right to do as you please with your skin. good luck
I think you should do what you want. It's your body and you are an adult.